I bought a ring today – one that I really like, for US$20 – on what is the 8th year Anniversary of the surprise engagement to my second husband. Thing is, the divorce from said husband is about to be finalised through court.
The irony of this situation though, is he spent 2 years asking me what type of ring I liked, and then surprised me with a ring that was soooo small it didn’t even fit on my little finger, and with sapphires! – not my birthstone, or actually a colour I am drawn to – but it is a stone that he liked.
He had found some sapphires and other stones gem fossicking years before he met me, and some of the green stones were certainly pretty, but he didn’t even get a ring made with those stones (apparently we couldn’t afford it).
And now, just today, I have bought a silicone ring (Enso Rings) – yep, silicone – because now that I have space to know who I am and what I really like, it’s so totally me! My last engagement ring, I paid to have it repaired twice (I still own it, and it’s currently broken), because I am a size V in a standard ring, and it had to be resized up from a K – so of course, there’s a major weak link in the ring. And of course, I’m classicly clumsy, so the ring would crack or bend in the added section – something a silicone ring will NEVER do! And honestly, if for any reason, I do take it off and misplace it, I won’t feel bad for losing it – it’ll be a sentimental loss, and I won’t have someone making me feel bad about it.
And the other irony about wearing a silicone ring is that it is effectively a plastic – and I enjoy recycling and repurposing stuff! Makes no sense to me – but I’m ok with that!
Doing Life Differently 